Coping strategies II
Published September 29, 2011 | 
Ways I Cope: Checklist
I distance myself from the situation.
I distance myself from myself.
I use relaxation techniques.
I become very aware of the needs and emotions of others.
I learn or develop special skills.
I debate things within myself.
I create appropriate boundaries with other people.
I show a sense of humor. I try to find something to laugh at.
I do something creative.
I educate myself.
I find a physical release (walk, swim).
I do art work.
I write in a journal.
I work at a hobby.
Assertiveness II
Published September 29, 2011 | The Life Skill of Keeping Boundaries for the Trauma Survivor
What is a Boundary?
A boundary is an invisible “barrier” between you and other people. It is the limit you set for yourself that you will not go beyond, and beyond which others are not welcome. Often when there is trauma in a person’s background it is difficult to have a clear sense of boundaries. As a result, there is a tendency to either have a huge wall that keeps everyone out, or no boundaries, allowing others to take advantage of or hurt you. It is healthy to have a good sense of where you are comfortable or uncomfortable and to honor those feelings. Please take the enclosed “Survey on Boundaries” and get an idea where your boundaries are.
Comparing Healthy Versus Unhealthy Boundaries
The following two lists describe people with healthy boundaries or unhealthy boundaries. Mark which of the statements sound most like you.
People with Healthy Boundaries
_____Know what kind of information to share with people on each level of relationship.
_____Do not allow others to hurt them.
_____Trust people in degrees as they demonstrate their trustworthiness.
_____Know what they will allow others to do.
_____Have clear… Continue reading
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