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Reasons People Don't Let Go of their Pain
To wish to be well is part of becoming well. Seneca
Premature forgiveness.
Identity.
shame or feeling unworthy.
I do not deserve to feel better.
It is punishment.
It is power.
If the pain is dealt with the trauma really happened.
It is a role.
It is a way of connecting to the environment and others.
It is companionship when lonely.
I pain therefore I am.
It distracts you from other pain, problems, and things.
It is a way of avoiding responsibility.
It keeps you from dealing with issues or people-It simplifies life.
If you are a victim of pain you do not have to be accountable.
Meaning in pain- martyrdom.
It is a way of getting drugs.
Altered state of consciousness.
The pain is part of the belief system.
It is an escape.
What if I am whole and not good enough.
What am I going to do without pain?
I am afraid to be whole-no more excuses.
Pride-I cannot just be the person I am, what of you is there really without it?
Self-acceptance is a problem. Pain makes it less an issue.
Fear-of the unknown.
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